Fetish or Kink

In casual conversation, the words fetish and kink are often tossed around interchangeably to mean any sexual desire or proclivity that falls outside the mainstream appetite ― like bondage for example. But while the two terms may overlap in certain areas, sex experts say there are some key differences.

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In general, a fetish is a sexual fixation on a specific object or act that is absolutely necessary to a person’s sexual gratification. Often, it’s something that may not be inherently sexual, like shoes, leather or sploshing

When the fixation is on a particular body part ― feet, hands, butt or boobs, for example ― that’s referred to as “partialism.” With [partialism], one part of the whole body is isolated and sexually charged or objectified,” One can have a fetish for corsets or leather belts but, if one also is erotically obsessed with the slender, defined waist, that is a partialization.”

Kink, on the other hand, is a broader term that encompasses a bunch of alternative sexual interests, preferences or fantasies that go beyond your run-of-the-mill missionary sex It might include BDSM, roleplaying or such as spanking and whipping.

Fetish is heavily tied to having a psychological need for those specific objects or acts in order to experience pleasure and or orgasm, whereas kinks can add to a sexual experience but aren’t necessarily needed to achieve sexual release,” Think of it this way: All fetishes are kinks but not all kinks are fetishes. What might be a kink for one person ― you get turned on by seeing your partner in leather chaps ― could be another person’s fetish. For example, you may have an actual sexual proclivity for leather, as in, leather itself turns you on,”

Lola, too, acknowledges that the lines between fetish and kink can get blurry, but offered an example from her own sex life to illustrate the point. I’m a submissive, and I love spankings and impact play. That kind of play adds another layer to my sex life that I love,” she said. “However, I don’t always want or need that kind of play to be a part of all of my sexual experiences. In fact, there are only certain people I practice that kind of play with and I usually don’t have penetrative sex when I play heavily. The play itself is usually pleasurable and fulfilling on its own.” “Most fetishes develop from early life experiences and are patterns and behaviors that grow as the person develops sexually.”

Kitty: Make sense? Now let’s get kinky.

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