Pleasure and Pain

I feel Mean so if you want a good old thrashing or some hot chilli peppers up your anus  (only joking) it will make my day,  pleasure is what I like to give but if your thing is pain I am very good at giving pain. Benign masochism is something that those who engage in BDSM won’t find surprising.

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We make a difference between good pain and bad pain. Bad pain indicates that something is not right, something we have to pay instant attention to. Then there’s good pain which is enjoyable. For example, when the shoulder starts pulling during bondage, that’s potentially unsafe so we release it.”

The link between sex and pain is not confined to the world of BDSM. One study, in which researchers used MRI to visualise the brains of women as they stimulated themselves to climax, found that more than 30 areas of the brain were active including those involved in the pain.

Another found that cancer survivors, who had nerves in their spinal cord cut to relieve chronic abdominal pain, lost the ability to have orgasms. If their pain returned, so did the orgasms. There’s a fundamental link between pain and orgasm pathways. Another observation is that the facial expressions during orgasm are often indistinguishable from those in pain,” he says. The idea that we can achieve happiness by maximising pleasure and minimising pain is both intuitive and popular. The truth is, however, very different. Pleasure alone cannot not make us happy.

A different kind of pain. Take Christina Onassis, the daughter of shipping tycoon Aristotle Onassis. She inherited wealth beyond imagination and spent it on extravagant pleasures in an attempt to alleviate her unhappiness. She died at 37 and her biography, tellingly subtitled all the pain money can buy recounts a life full of mind-boggling extravagance that contributed to her suffering.

Recognising the possibility that endless pleasure may actually lead to dystopian societies. Although the idea of endless pleasure seems idyllic, the reality is often very different. We need pain to provide a contrast for pleasure; without pain life becomes dull, boring and downright undesirable. Like a chocoholic in a chocolate shop, we soon forget what it was that made our desires so desirable in the first place.

KITTY Visit me let me make your day the Kitty Collins way xx

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